Your marriage or your relationship is in trouble
Same fights, same silences, and the growing suspicion that talking about it more is not going to fix it.
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You're Not Giving Too Much. You're Not Asking.
You give constantly and feel drained and unacknowledged. The advice is always to give less. I think you have a different problem entirely.
July 28, 2026 · 8 min read
The Five Seconds That Could Save Your Marriage
Every marriage book tells you to communicate more. I've found the opposite. Five seconds of silence can do what years of talking never will.
June 1, 2026 · 8 min read
Stop Complaining to Your Wife (And Other Homework That Actually Works)
My homework assignment: shut up. My patient's review: five stars. Why behavioral homework beats journaling every time.
August 15, 2025 · 10 min read
Two Sessions and Everything Changed (No, Really)
He badmouthed his wife for weeks. I met her, turned to him: 'You're giving her a bad rap.' Two sessions later, everything shifted.
June 15, 2025 · 11 min read
The Kind of Love That Lasts
Would you like to be in love again? Understanding the kind of love that endures beyond infatuation.
February 14, 2019 · 6 min read
Cultivating Love on Valentine’s Day
What does it really mean to cultivate love? Reflections on connection, meaning, and lasting bonds.
February 14, 2018 · 4 min read
Love is rare, Lust is medium rare
Love is rare, lust is medium rare. Untangling desire, connection, and what we truly seek.
March 10, 2017 · 5 min read
Viagra and the Essence of Male Sexuality
Everyone talks about Viagra, but the deeper questions about male sexuality deserve serious exploration.
February 8, 2017 · 11 min read